Sunday, August 14, 2011

Just trying to be helpful, really :)

Do you have friends or family members that are having a hard time starting their family? I know quite a few (including myself, of course!) Here are a few comments they may often hear, and which I might suggest you avoid.

It's not that we don't appreciate people trying to be helpful and supportive, it's just that some comments are not what your friends/family need to hear from you. What they really need to hear is that you're there for them while they're going through a difficult, emotional and potentially very long (who knows how long?) trial.

***

"Don't worry, you'll probably end up having lots of kids.

"I know this couple that had a really hard time, and it worked out for them."

"You're young, you've got plenty of time."

"You're lucky that you don't have to deal with the stress of having kids right now."

"You can always adopt." (or "You should try adopting, and then you'll get pregnant!")

"Just have faith, and it will happen."

***

The truth is: It may work out (that is, a successful pregnancy) or it may not, adopting is an equally emotional process, the uncertainty of not being able to start a family is difficult at any age and for any length of time, and an increase in faith will likely not cure infertility (although it is certainly necessary to endure it).

I hope this doesn't come across as scornful, because I really am truly trying to be helpful. :) Your suggestions and comments are welcome, of course! I'd really, really love to hear from as many people as possible on this.

(Speaking of comments, thanks to all of you who offered your support in response to my account of the "worst doctor's appointment EVER." I've wanted to reach out to each of you individually, but I've been out of town and out of touch for quite a while, so I'm still working on that. Just know that it meant ALOT to me, especially in light of this being the week that our first baby would have been due - which is why all of this has been on my mind - and I love all of you!)

Wednesday, August 10, 2011

Summary of Summer

Places we have visited this summer (in order):

- Hell's Half Acre and 17-Mile Cave (Idaho)
- Las Vegas, NV
- Hoover Dam
- London Bridge at Lake Havasu, NV
- Yuma, AZ (including the famous old Arizona state prison)
- San Diego, CA (and Sea World)
- Phoenix, AZ
- Grand Canyon (North Rim and South Rim)
- Pipe Springs National Monument (Utah)
- Yellowstone National Park
- Summit of Scout Mountain (Idaho)
- Salt Lake City, UT
- Atlanta, GA
- Smoky Mountains (Georgia)
- Washington DC (including the Smithsonian, National Archives, National Monuments, War Memorials and National Cemetery)
- Lancaster, PA (Amish Country)
- Palmyra, NY (including the Hill Cumorah Pageant and LDS church history sites)
- Niagra Falls
- Kirtland, OH (including the original LDS temple and town center of the early members)
- Louisville, KY
- Vale, OR
- Boise, ID
- Ogden, UT
- Boston, MA
- Merrimack, NH
- Downata Hot Springs (Idaho)

***

Obviously, from this list you can assume that we have more to tell. All in good time. :)

It's a little daunting to be honest - all the pictures, stories, etc. that we have to share - but don't worry, I won't be posting all of it only for you to enjoy (not that you aren't a good enough reason, of course!). It will also become our personal album to print and keep for ourselves to remember our incredible travels.

Anyway, it might take me a while since our "new" house and yard have been mostly neglected for the past couple months and I want to jump in and get some projects done (meaning, have Ben get some projects done) before school starts again. In the meantime, check out our Facebooks for a preview of the pictures!