Do you have friends or family members that are having a hard time starting their family? I know quite a few (including myself, of course!) Here are a few comments they may often hear, and which I might suggest you avoid.
It's not that we don't appreciate people trying to be helpful and supportive, it's just that some comments are not what your friends/family need to hear from you. What they really need to hear is that you're there for them while they're going through a difficult, emotional and potentially very long (who knows how long?) trial.
"Don't worry, you'll probably end up having lots of kids.
"I know this couple that had a really hard time, and it worked out for them."
"You're young, you've got plenty of time."
"You're lucky that you don't have to deal with the stress of having kids right now."
"You can always adopt." (or "You should try adopting, and then you'll get pregnant!")
"Just have faith, and it will happen."
The truth is: It may work out (that is, a successful pregnancy) or it may not, adopting is an equally emotional process, the uncertainty of not being able to start a family is difficult at any age and for any length of time, and an increase in faith will likely not cure infertility (although it is certainly necessary to endure it).
I hope this doesn't come across as scornful, because I really am truly trying to be helpful. :) Your suggestions and comments are welcome, of course! I'd really, really love to hear from as many people as possible on this.
(Speaking of comments, thanks to all of you who offered your support in response to my account of the "worst doctor's appointment EVER." I've wanted to reach out to each of you individually, but I've been out of town and out of touch for quite a while, so I'm still working on that. Just know that it meant ALOT to me, especially in light of this being the week that our first baby would have been due - which is why all of this has been on my mind - and I love all of you!)